You’re a young man, and that means you need to know these things. Here are 20 rules for all the guys out there:
Don’t stretch your ears.
That’s right—your ears! Don’t get us wrong: we love a man with a pierced tongue and an eyebrow ring, but these are not good places for earrings because they can be easily visible and make you more likely to wear them in public. If you have a piercing in one of those areas, conceal it by wearing long hair or keeping it hidden under long sleeves when possible. If your job requires that you show up at work wearing just a shirt (or nothing at all), consider getting another earring there instead of using one as an excuse for why you can’t wear makeup every single day of the week (which isn’t really all that hard).
Don’t get memorial tattoos.
Don’t get memorial tattoos. If you’re thinking of getting a tattoo to honor someone in your life, think again. The idea that you can permanently mark a person’s memory with ink is an incredibly disrespectful thing to do and will only hurt the person whose name it’s meant for—and not just because they’ll feel emotionally betrayed by their own flesh-and-blood son/brother/husband/father.
There are so many other ways of honoring those who’ve passed away without hurting them or putting their bodies through unnecessary pain: writing down memories on paper; burning photos; telling stories through song lyrics (or other creative forms); creating artworks (or even just keeping photographs). It doesn’t have to mean anything more than that!
Don’t use offensive terms.
Don’t use offensive terms. This is a no-brainer, but in case you missed it: don’t use racist, sexist or homophobic slurs. It can be tempting to insult your friends with a joke or two—but it’s better not to risk hurting someone else by doing so. If you have something funny to say about someone in your group, try saying it offstage instead of in front of them (and vice versa).
Don’t put racist imagery on your body.
If you’re going to get a tattoo, make sure it isn’t racist. Don’t get a swastika on your arm or chest; don’t get a Confederate flag tattooed on your neck, and definitely don’t put both together. If you have any doubt about whether the image is offensive, ask yourself: would I want to see this in person? If so—don’t do it!
Don’t bother with a giant beard, you look like a hobo.
If you are someone who has a beard and is looking to add more to your face, then great! But if you want to make sure that everyone around you knows what kind of manly person you are, then there’s something else for you.
First off: beards aren’t for everyone. Some people just don’t like them or think they make them look older than their age (which isn’t always true). They can also get in the way when trying to kiss someone because of all those hairs on your face—and even if it isn’t raining at all times out there, sometimes they still get wet. And lastly but most importantly: no matter how much effort goes into growing one down below…once it grows out above your lips its going nowhere fast because once again…it’s just not practical!
Don’t be fat.
As a young man, you should be striving to be as fit and healthy as possible. If you’re fat, lazy or unhealthy, it’s going to negatively impact your life in ways that go beyond the physical. It may seem like an easy choice—eat less junk food and exercise more—but if you can’t even manage that much effort on your own weight loss journey then there’s no point in even trying.
Being overweight can lead to self-esteem issues and low confidence levels, which makes dating difficult or impossible for some people who are heavier than average (especially if they’ve tried other strategies without success). Not only does this mean they have fewer opportunities to find partners but it also means their health could deteriorate faster due than someone who has a better relationship with themselves mentally first before anything else occurs physically
Don’t take selfies when you go out somewhere.
Selfies are a way for people to show off their egos and how important they think they are. They look at the camera lens and say, “Look at me! Look at me! Look at my life! I am so cool, so awesome, and so great.”
The truth is that most people who take selfies do not believe this themselves; instead, they feel insecure about themselves or afraid of failure or rejection—which is why we see so many selfie-taking men on social media platforms like Instagram or Facebook (or any other app).
No gay slurs.
It’s not okay to use gay slurs, even in a joking manner. If you’re trying to be funny, then make sure that your joke is also non-offensive. You shouldn’t be able to use a homosexual slur and laugh about it later on.
If someone says something offensive or homophobic around you, don’t retaliate with another homophobic comment or act of aggression yourself—this only reinforces their behavior and makes them feel like they have the right to say whatever they want without consequences!
No rape jokes or rape culture apologists.
Rape jokes are bad. They perpetuate a culture that minimizes the seriousness of rape and trivializes it. The idea of “rape jokes” is to make light of sexual assault, which only serves to reinforce the idea that it’s funny or tolerable (or both).
We must be clear: rape jokes aren’t just offensive—they’re harmful. And they can sometimes lead to violence against women, especially when they’re used as justification for men’s behavior toward women in general. This doesn’t mean you have to avoid all references to sex or nudity; just remember that even if you don’t feel comfortable talking about these topics with your friends, others might feel differently!
No misogyny.
The next time you hear a man say something that makes you feel like he hates all women, it’s important to remember: misogyny is not just an insult. It’s also an act of violence against women and girls.
Misogyny can be overt or subtle, but it has the same effect on all of us—it hurts our ability to live freely and peacefully with each other as equals. Misogyny harms those who experience it by making them feel unsafe in their own bodies and spaces (such as classrooms), more likely to be victims of violence (including domestic abuse), less likely to succeed in school or work due to low self-esteem issues caused by constant harassment from peers; ultimately driving them away from society altogether so they don’t have access anymore!
No transphobia.
A transphobia is a form of discrimination against trans people. It can be expressed through words, actions, or other means. Transphobia can also be unintentional and unintentional; it’s harmful to trans people and not ok.
Transphobia is one of the most common forms of prejudice faced by transgender people—and it’s especially dangerous for young men who are just starting their transitions into manhood. Here are some ways you can help fight back against this kind of hate:
Feminists are people too, respect them as such and don’t call them feminazis.
When you meet a feminist, it’s important to remember that she is not a monolithic group. There are many different kinds of feminists, and some may even be anti-men. But despite their differences in opinion about issues like male privilege and gender equality, all feminists share one thing: an interest in promoting the rights of women—and an insistence on respecting them as individuals with their own unique perspectives and views.
There’s no need to call someone who identifies as a feminist by the pejorative term “feminazi,” because there are plenty of non-fascists out there who want equal treatment for both genders! If you do encounter someone who thinks differently than you do about feminism or its goals (or if they seem defensive when you bring up your personal experience), try asking questions instead of making assumptions or being judgmental; this will allow both parties time to think things through before reaching any conclusions based on limited information.
Don’t smoke, do alcohol, or do drugs
This is a no-brainer. Smoking, drinking and doing drugs are not good for your health at any age. In addition to being bad for you physically, they can also cause mental health problems and make it harder to learn new things when you need it most. So if you want to be successful in life (and don’t just mean financially successful), don’t do them!
Stop people pleasing
It’s time for you to stop being afraid of saying no. You need to learn how to say no in a way that doesn’t make others feel bad about themselves and their ideas but instead makes you stronger as a person.
You should also learn how to ask for what you want without feeling guilty or ashamed of yourself for wanting something so simple like asking for some food when there’s nothing left in the kitchen after eating dinner already.
Another thing that men need is not to be afraid of standing up for themselves; this means speaking up if something isn’t right or if someone has done something wrong to them. If someone hurts one’s feelings by saying something mean behind their back, speak up because nobody deserves to be treated like that!
Be an ally to women who are being discriminated against in the workplace and in general life.
Be an ally to women who are being discriminated against in the workplace and in general life.
This is especially important if you are a man. If a woman is being harassed or bullied by her coworkers, it can be difficult for you not to step in and say something about it. However, this isn’t always helpful or even appropriate; there are times when nothing short of resigning will help the situation (and there are plenty of other ways we could go about addressing such issues). So how do we create safe spaces for everyone? Here’s what I recommend:
- When someone says or does something sexist or oppressive towards another person (or group), speak up! Do so calmly and with respect; they might not see your words as helpful at first but that doesn’t mean they won’t later on when they reflect on them more carefully–and hopefully realize that what they said wasn’t cool either!
- Don’t make jokes about gender roles/stereotypes unless those jokes come from a place of love rather than hate.”
Be kind to everyone no matter their gender identity, sexual orientation, race, religion, etc.
The most important rule is to be kind to everyone no matter their gender identity, sexual orientation, race, religion, etc.
You should treat people with respect and dignity. This includes other men as well as women and non-binary individuals (those who identify themselves as neither male nor female). If you have any doubts about whether or not someone would be offended by your behavior then don’t do it! You never know what someone else might find offensive until after the fact – so don’t risk offending them just because it seems like a good idea at the time because sometimes things can go wrong even if we think they won’t!
Treat all people with dignity and respect regardless of who they are and what their history is like with you, family members, friends, etc.
Treat others as you want to be treated—this includes being inclusive of all races, genders and sexualities; treating everyone with kindness and understanding; not judging another person based on their appearance or choices in life (e.g., religion).
When we treat each other respectfully we can build trust between us which will allow us to share our stories openly without fearing that they will be judged harshly by someone else who isn’t part of the conversation yet still wants an opinion on it even though they may never meet them face-to-face at some point later down the line!
Having patience with yourself and others is the key to learning anything important in life.
Patience is a virtue and it’s important to have in all areas of life. You may think patience is something you’re born with, but that isn’t true. It can be learned and practiced by anyone if they put their mind to it. Patience will help you succeed in every area of your life, whether it’s school or work, or anything else!
You don’t need to be aggressive or hostile just because you’re a man or because you feel like “being a man.”
The world isn’t divided into men and women, so there’s no reason why your behavior should be either. If someone is being aggressive with you, then stand up for yourself—but don’t make the problem worse by being even more aggressive in return!
Be yourself: whether it’s your interests (sports), your personality (jokes), or anything else about who you are as an individual person. Don’t try too hard; just be kinder than usual and let everyone else know that this isn’t what they’ll expect from everyone in their group at all times every day of their lives…even if those expectations aren’t realistic at all times either!
Make mistakes, it will help you learn what works and what doesn’t – but always take responsibility for them.
There is a difference between making mistakes and being a bad person. If you are the former, it’s okay to admit your mistake and seek help; if you are the latter, then it’s time to fix your behavior or move on! It doesn’t mean that every guy out there is going to try this advice perfectly right away—but every guy should at least consider taking some of these tips into consideration in their daily life as they learn what works and what doesn’t.
Take responsibility when things go wrong: This one seems obvious but many young men fail at taking ownership for their mistakes. They blame everyone but themselves for their problems instead of accepting personal accountability for them (or just not bothering them at all). The truth is that no one can do everything perfectly all the time; so don’t beat yourself up over things beyond your control! Instead, try changing up how often similar situations happen again so next time around will be easier on yourself without having learned any lessons beforehand.”
Conclusion
These are just some of the things that need to be said. You must take a look at your own life and learn from everyone you meet; you will be able to find answers within yourself if you are truly sincere in thinking about these things and asking the right questions. Don’t forget, there is no one right way to live life; it is all up to personal choice!
A good friend will tell me when I’m being too harsh on myself/others in this post: “TJ, I don’t think you have enough data yet for this conclusion.” Also, “That might be true, but we still need more evidence before coming up with anything conclusive.”